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by Jerome Princy (2019-10-22)

Bernard's outline is obviously Individualogist Review sermonic in tone and designed as an instructive tool for aspiring monastics. But with all its medieval format, his description of pride rings true. Modern psychology does not have much to add to his outline. Pride elevates the self, seeks to have one's worth recognized by others, and is blind to obvious personal faults. The proud person has difficulty functioning interpersonally, since he or she does not receive or process feedback from others in a satisfactory manner. Nor does the proud person fare well in the task of being other-centered. Pride forms a key element in the psychological construct of narcissism. Pride, psychologically considered, is defensive in nature. By definition pride is not a fair and true estimate of self; it is an overestimate. Hence the proud person is motivated to hide a subconscious feeling of inferiority or is motivated to overcompensate for actual inadequacies. Pride can be part of an ill-formed approach to social interaction; the proud person may genuinely feel his or her pride to be the best approach to dealing with self and others and may be unaware of flaws that preclude the pride. Pride thrives on deference and praise from others. It may have its roots in parental overindulgence or in a background that created deep personal insecurities for which the pride is compensating. There are those times in our lives when we shut our ears, our eyes and our senses to good reason. We create a barrier in our minds for reasons that make perfect logic to us but no sense at all to the world at large. These are difficult times and we turn to miss out on many things, especially those things that we desire because of our insular approach. Below are five reasons why we would barricade our minds from good sense. Love is blind, hidden and heartfelt. Love is emotional, most times irrational and rises above reason. This is true love and goes a long way in making us care for one another. However love must have perspective for what is right and isn't. Where there is no perspective our love could lead us down a path that eventually becomes detrimental to our well-being. It is important to appreciate all the aspects of love in order that it is measured in truth and sincerity. If love can be appreciated in this way then we would have no objection to good sense when it is offered to us.